Category Archives: permission

the voice

School taught us to obey, follow and respect authority, and if you adhere to the rules set forth – you may even get rewarded (or reprimanded if you don’t). School also taught us that you were smart, average, or stupid and in the social setting our prepubescent peers helped us identify if we were popular, average, or sadly for some… terrorized.

Thankfully school doesn’t last forever, but unfortunately for some, the side effects (“the voice”) from schooling persists for the majority of their lives. Why wouldn’t it? We invest massive amounts of time at our most sensitive of developmental periods of life trying to fit into this severely broken system. During this time we are taught certain things that may not even be true for us. Then it’s reinforced time and time again which in turn sets the hardwiring of these life long core beliefs we hold onto and live with every single day, most of which we aren’t even consciously aware of.

Once you leave the “institution” you quickly learn that real life isn’t anything like school. Some of us left school and went right into creating or building a life that was driven by passion or ambition. Others went into a guided, maybe somewhat pressured path to become something that would please others and be a safe bet. Maybe you fell into the middle somewhere between the two.

No matter where you find yourself today there’s hope. Hope to get back to being that kid who thought they could do or be anything. Don’t you remember?

Most have long since given up hope for that part of themselves and have bought into the notion that living that life, “isn’t in the cards.”

Bullshit.

You can break the mold. The voice that resides in your head that fills you with doubt, makes you second guess yourself, and reminds you that you’re not “good enough.” That voice is a lie. Most people have been listening to that voice for so long they think it’s their trusted advisor. They think that voice speaks for their best interests and they probably could tell you a few scenarios that it basically saved their lives. –>(Bullshit.)

If you’re interested here’s a few things you can do to manage that voice:

1. Get back to your passion. Engage in what you enjoy. Specifically if it envolves you creating/developing/producing – get in and get dirty.
2. Every time you hear that voice try to oppose you – politely thank it for it’s input (and then tell it to **** off) <— this seriously works extraordinarily well for me!
3. Make sure it’s not about money. For example, if your passion is ART and you work as an accountant to pay your bills. I’m suggesting that you immerse yourself in the creation of art (in your off hours) – as often as you can for as long as you can.

As a side note: If you’re as interested in making a difference in the “Westernized Public Education System” as I am, here’s an amazing book written by Seth Godin… Free. –> Click here for the free E-Book <–

Why not ask yourself for advice?

Stop fighting for what you think you want or need and start following the hints, clues, suggestions you naturally feel inclined to act on.

People want to know… what do I do next? (or even worst, what should I do next?)

I don’t know, but you should really ask yourself sometime.

There will always be a market for experts to tell you what to do, and then there are those that just create without external guidance…

Which are you?

have the conversation

Opportunity, collaboration, and epic possibilities are just sitting there… waiting for you to simply have the conversation. Don’t discount the fact that you are literally one easy step away from creating something massively HUGE. No matter where you find yourself today, learn that if you keep your head up and your eyes open, your next big play is right in front of you.

BUT… more often than not we don’t take the chance, we don’t take the risk, we hold ourselves back from approaching that “person” or opportunity because _______(whatever BS excuse you effectively sell yourself on)

TRUST ME, I know this very well, I’ve been telling myself for years that the successful people I’ve held in my sphere of influence were much too successful to work with someone like me… who am I and what do I truly have to offer that’s “special”

…the answer is: EVERYTHING.

Most of us rob ourselves of our greatest possibilities because we rationalize ourselves out of ever having the conversation.

Understand that there’s nothing wrong with feeling inadequate or not good enough when thinking about having a high level conversation with another successful person. The only difference between someone who can collaborate at a high level and those who can’t are those who feel the feelings and have the conversation anyways. Those who dare just MIGHT.

Have the conversation.